Archives for the month of: July, 2013

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When I think of friendship I think of someone you can count on, pray with, encourage, love and grow with. I’ve always prided myself on being an amazing friend to everyone I come in contact with. I’m very supportive, I’m very loving and I’m very passionate about my friends. With being a christian we have to have an open heart and be a strong force in our friendships. I can remember growing up and I’ve always had a circle of friends and I love/loved them to the highest degree BUT it wasn’t always shown back to me. I was VERY quick to cut people out of my life and in the last year I’ve been working to stop that. I noticed that there was an unforgiving spirit in me that led to me being able to dismiss so easily. But if we’re Christian how can we be so easy to say BYE when Christ is daily forgiving us?

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In the last 2 or 3 years I’ve had to release a lot of people from my life because they didn’t appreciate the gift of me. I mean I would go to one friends house, cook, clean, drive all that and this person wouldn’t even invite me over to her new apartment. I even left my own daughter’s birthday party to drive behind her car because she had expired tags and I didn’t want her to get a ticket. I will go over and beyond the call of friendship for my friends because that’s just how I was raised. I released her from my life and started to reevaluate other friends I’d released in the past. I forgive her but no longer will grant access to my life to her.

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In the last year I’ve had a couple of old friends reach out to me wanting to rekindle a friendship and I was tickled pink. I’ll admit I am STILL struggling with overcoming pride so though I missed them, there was NO WAY I’d tell them first. One friend in particular I heard she wanted to talk and I smiled so bright because I’d been wanting to speak with her. In being a christian I can say God will deal with you when you’re being unfair or too harsh on someone. Funny thing is I’d dreamed I saw the friend before and God told me to release that hurt and in that dream I did. I jumped out of my sleep, breathing heavily because it felt so real. We have to learn to COMMUNICATE, FORGIVE and ADDRESS OUR MESS. I didn’t know how to forgive in the past so I walked around with that heaviness in my heart.

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Now I’ve learned when a friendship doesn’t serve me to talk to that person. I learned to pray over the situation and see if God wants me to remove them from my life. I can admit maybe I wasn’t the best friend to them at a point. I was so busy thinking ” oh you wronged me, to the left”, that I never considered that I may have done them wrong. In growing closer to God I can now admit that I mightn’t missed that I hurt them in the past but they didn’t bring it to my attention. I can also admit that I can be VERY judgmental toward my friends. Yes I’m super mature for 24 years old BUT everyone isn’t on the same maturity level so I have to handle them more carefully. Instead of judging I need to minister to them, encourage them and support them. God gave me the gift of gab because I’m very good with words, encouragement, inspiration and uplift people up. He sent me to spread not only the gospel but to be a light in a dark tunnel for people I encounter. Now being more mature and God doing a MAJOR work in me I can be a better friend, a better mother and even a more mature Christian Woman Of God. Look inside yourself and see if you can improve, look inside yourself and swallow your pride because in Proverbs 16:18-19 we see pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before stumbling. It is better to be humble in spirit with the lowly Than to divide the spoil with the proud. God is showing us to be prideful is going to end in disaster so always realize you can improve, forgive and live a full awesome life. Let’s Pray!

Dear God,

I come to you today asking that you unveil anything that is not like you in me. I ask that you create a clean and forgiving heart in me so that I can better represent you. I want to view people the way you view me Lord and if anything is within me to separate me from your ways father remove it. I ask that you do a work in my heart and bring it to my attention so that I may work on it and improve. Thank you Lord for your grace, mercy and forgiveness toward me. In your mighty and awesome name I pray Lord, Amen.

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When you hear the word celibate it sends most people running for the hills. Thankfully it was brought to my attention AFTER I decided to commit to GOD with my entire being. If you know me, you know I was raised by a Preacher and a housewife so it shouldn’t of been taboo right? WRONG! Not only were mom and dad Preacher and preacher’s wife but they were from the SOUTH. YOU KNOW that’s like the military don’t ask, don’t tell policy. I was brought up on don’t have sex, no explanation, no talks just DON’T DO IT! So you bet I went straight to the streets to experiment. I won’t speak on all my relationships but about 6 years ago I got in a relationship with a guy who I thought was HIM, IT, THE ONE AND ALL THAT! Long story short we have a 4 year old daughter now who I raise alone. I went through HELL, the trenches and some horrible days the last couple of years with this person. I finally prayed and said “God, I’m going to end this relationship BUT I don’t want to hurt like I did a few months ago when I put him out.” I got off my bed packed his things, dropped them off, got my daughter, went to court for 6 months won custody and was DONE. It was after that I decided to get on the right track with GOD fully. I can honestly say reading different blogs, following high power pastors and people of God brought me through. I was lost and when I connected to other women of God I was learning what was required of me. I decided celibacy was a path I’d take and it’s been 22 months since I made that decision. I have met a few guys but when they hear me say I’m celibate they look for the nearest exit. I’m saving myself for my husband and that will NOT be changed by anyone who just wants my body and to run off. Now I know God smiles on me for honoring his commands. The way I see it is; if a man truly loves you he won’t taint your body before he commits solely to you. He’ll know his worth and respect that you know yours and marry you. Are you familiar with the term “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” Yes sex IS CREATED FOR MARRIAGE, not for anybody who just wants a 5 second thrill and will be in the next persons bed in 10 minutes. All you do is create a soul tie ( a connection through sharing your body with someone who is not your husband) and leave you broken and your body used. I’ve heard people say well it’s just a piece of paper, yes it is a piece of paper that GOD created and designed for us to be committed and create families through. I’ve heard people say well don’t you have a daughter? YES I DO, I had premarital sex and in turn have become a single mother because that person wasn’t the right one for me and doesn’t do his part so I learned from my mistakes. Let’s discuss some pros of being celibate

1. YOU GET TO KNOW THE PERSON: This shows you who the person is, where their morals are, if they have a relationship with Christ, if they respect their body and yours.

2. YOU CAN BUILD A FRIENDSHIP: It allows you to be friends, have fun, learn about each other,  and IF they are right for you then you can start to date

3. YOU LEARN WHO CARES FOR YOU AND WHO JUST WANTS YOUR BODY: most men/women who come trying to get with you have NO intention of marrying you. You just share your body with them and that isn’t going to keep them. You’ve just tied your soul to them and they are off to the next person who’ll have the.

4. YOU ARE WALKING IN GOD’S WILL: God is smiling on you and will in turn send you a mate that you can be courted by or court. He’ll send you that one person who you are designed to be with and who you can have a family with. If you honor him then he’ll in turn honor you, your life and your marriage.

5. YOU CHERISH YOURSELF SO THAT YOU DON’T ACCEPT ANYTHING BUT THE BEST: It’s amazing to have standards and once you cherish yourself, you will only accept the best. You won’t tolerate cheating, lying and disrespect! You will require he/she has a relationship with Christ. Not just going to church, bible study and reading their bible, their works will show. They will be living the word out in front of your eyes.

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We often say this very term, “God I trust you”. Now we can stick with that until the storm starts to rage on and on and on. This week has been really trying for me, I’ve faced some major setbacks but little did I know God was setting me up for a major comeback. Have you ever had those days where you were praying and telling God how you knew he’d turn it around BUT it didn’t happen on YOUR time so you got discouraged? We are all strong in faith until God lets us go through a little more. God wants to see if you really trust him so he’ll sit back and say OKAY, let me throw a little monkey in that plan and see if he/she REALLY trust me. By the third day you are stretched out on your bed, crying, asking GOD why he’d do such a thing like this to you, ready to give up and even regretting being a Christian. Don’t look at the screen like I’m not telling the truth!

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I’m here to remind you that when you tell GOD that you trust him, you better show it! Don’t say I trust you Lord, I know you’re working it out and then go trying to do his job. HE is GOD and GOD alone, he doesn’t need your help so sit back and keep the faith. Praise him out loud, thank him for what you are trusting and believing him to do. I don’t care if you have 6 kids and 2 pieces of steak in your freezer, God will multiply it. He will send resources for you to feed those children. If your gas tank is on “E” and you know you have to go to work all week, he’ll provide a way for you to get to work. TRUST HIM, genuinely seek his face and keep telling him you know he’ll work it out and just like that he’ll sustain you. It may be through someone else but he WILL come through, trust me I just went through it this past week. 

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One thing I noticed is someone who is lost in the world prides themselves on material things. Today I had someone who is in my bloodline try to throw her material things in my face & I immediately thought, bless her Lord. Now I’ve been seeking employment for a little while now and believing God for my employment needs and all those sorts of things. Now with me knowing who I belong to & where my help comes from I don’t have to try to make someone feel low because they have fallen on hard times.

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What I want to tell all my Christian sisters is this: you don’t have to have earth;y riches for favor to be on your life. NEVER let someone who is so busy pleasing people with a lie discourage you on your praise path with Christ. You ARE going to hit your breakthrough and WHEN YOU DO, GOD is going to have his hand all over it so you will CONTINUALLY be blessed. Some people think because they are doing well now and you aren’t they’ll be able to laugh at you forever. The laughter is in the fact that God LOVES you, HE cherishes you, HE’S smiling on you and getting ready to show up & OUT in your situation. WHEN he rides in & gives you 1 yes, you are going to soar and live a bountiful life. You’ll be able to pay your tithes and give a little extra at offering time & STILL have more to give.

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For me tonight I smile and am content because I KNOW GOD is going to bless me! I’m constantly seeking his face, trust is fully in him, praying with a heart of gratitude, thanking him for keeping me in the midst of my storm. God KNOWS my heart & he knows yours so you rest on that. Make sure when you hit a hard patch you can still fill your mouth with praise to him. Being a true woman of God, I know that the material things can be taken at ANY time so I can’t put my faith in those things. I serve a God who NEVER leaves nor forsakes me so even though my financial situation isn’t perfect, my daughter has all she wants and needs, my car may be running hard but it gets me to point A & B, my living arrangements may not be what I want but I’m not outside under a bridge. So WOMAN OF GOD WE have a PRAISE to share with the world EVERYDAY!

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So today I want to blog about trusting God for your turn around. Now we know God will provide all our needs. Many times we pray without believing God to move in our situations, can you agree? I remember praying and still thinking what if it doesn’t happen? Have you ever heard “Trust in the Lord with all your heart?” When you Trust God for your turn around it can’t be half hearted, it has to be left on his throne where he can take care if it. 

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When we are going through a storm you MUST be thankful because he IS sustaining you. I know it’s hard to praise God and thank him when you feel like you’re going through hell, but  your praise let’s him know you trust him and have faith in him. I’m slowly learning to release my behavior of complaining and just say God you are working it out on my behalf.