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Well where do you start when you just have the need to freeze time? Have you ever been in a position where you just wish you had that “click” remote? I mean if you could pull out that remote and just stop all production on life you would’ve abused it by now? I am in that season RIGHT now and I want to encourage not only you but myself.

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The first thing I’ve come to realize is that I’ve cast my cares upon The Lord half heartedly. I’m so flustered because I’ve given him my “junk” but I keep going back to check on it. He has made way after way, answered prayer after prayer and here I am totally frazzled. What I had/have to do is remember, GOD HAS ME! So you know my advice to you is, give it over to him understanding and knowing GOD HAS YOU! He doesn’t need our help to step into our situations, he got this. No matter what storm we are facing in the coming week, day, hour, minute, second, health bad, bills overflowing, GOD got this. He is overseeing us so he already knows what the outcome is. We have to have faith in our Heavenly Father, know that even though it doesn’t feel good or look good it’s going to end in OUR good. You know Vashawn Mitchell’s song “Turning Around For Me?” Well I encourage you to believe those lyrics because as he sang, it won’t always be like this. Believe that sooner or later it’ll turn in my favor!

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I know that many things are ahead of me for the upcoming week so I’m choosing to trust God. When the plot thickens in my life, I’m going to speak life over myself. My cares? I’m going to cast them upon him and believe that he has my back. Though we may get discouraged and think he isn’t moving “fast enough” God got this! Even in our rants or total despair it may even feel like he isn’t for us but HE IS! He is waiting on you to let go of that “junk” and let him discard it properly. I encourage you tonight, when things get tough, get so unbearable to your human strength, call out to him. If you are at work, go to the bathroom and remind yourself “God you got this!” Lord it’s NOT over and I declare this path is going to straighten. What ever situation you find yourself in, just throw your head back, stretch your arms out and start to pray. If you can’t do that then just stop what you are doing, bow your head and start declaring his word and love over yourself. Don’t stay in that moment of frustration, cry out, call out, shout it out, just release the feelings of defeat.  Let’s pray!

Father God,

I come to you with a heart full of thanks! Even though life is beating on me I know you got this. I thank you for sustaining me in the midst of storms, attacks, lack and everything that has come to destroy me. Lord I fall down on my knees, at your feet knowing that you are keeping me. I call upon your name for protection, my needs being met and the spirit of defeat and distress being lifted from me. As you guide me on this path I open my mind and heart to all the blessings you have in store for me. I declare right now father that the storm can’t take me under because you have your hands on me. Father I see you working things out, I believe you are before me knocking down all things/ people looking for my downfall. I am the head and not the tail, all things are working together for my good, no weapon formed against me shall prosper. You have ALL power in YOUR hands Lord, you are the one and only God, I praise and thank you right now in advance for what you are doing. I declare and decree your goodness, your faithfulness and your mercy over all the situations I’m facing God. You have won again! I will have victory, the chains are falling off of me right now,I’m no longer hostage to those negative thoughts! It is in your name I pray and say thank you Lord,

amen

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I was having a conversation about a recent situation and this bible verse just repeated in my head. It’s amazing how we can be tight with someone and they reveal their heart to you. In the book of  Psalms, Chapter 23 vs. 5 it makes it clear to you that God has a plan when this happens. Sure, like I did,you may wonder if all along this/these people ever were truly for you. In Psalms 23:5 it reads “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil, my cup overflows”. This verse is so powerful because the pain of releasing toxic, using, just around to get your business or fake friend people is only part of the preparation. God has to purge you of these people because he has amazing things ahead for you. When they turn their back on you, reveal their heart and try to start problems it is only because they can’t go with you. Sure it is hurtful because you thought these were your friends BUT they are not and he is walking you toward true friends. He will make sure they have a front row seat to your success because he shows his power in his works. People believe where you are is as far as you’ll go but they aren’t aware of the God you serve and his plans for your life.

 

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No matter how bad it hurts just remember the goodness of God will cover you. If you are going through these situations and trials he will heal your heart. When you have a heart for God, he swoops down on you and screams to your enemies to back up! He immediately goes to work on your wounds, you just have to be open to the healing process. Yes, you will have good days and bad but it’s all part of the grieving process. The healing for me was to decide not to speak about it anymore but to pray when I’m feeling down. Yes, the people that hurt you will more than likely want an explanation but it is ok to tell them, it’s behind me and I choose to move forward. Once YOU have prayed to God for healing and a forgiving heart, that is the end of it. They can seek their own guidance outside of you! It might sound harsh but you have to remain in the goodness of God. If you relive it with people, you are going to disrupt your progress and get out of the right head and heart space.

 

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In the wake of betrayal and hurt you just get to a point where you decide to move forward. In the bible there are several verses that can assist you in moving on and forward. One thing you can not stop doing is praying, this will bring you through. I believe God has so much in store for me and on the way that he had to excuse people from my life. I’m now more aware of the wolves in sheep clothing so it won’t happen again. Just like in a relationship, you are cautious of who you allow in your life (hopefully) so you have to be that way with potential friends as well. I also know to only entertain people with a heart after Christ. I will entertain people who want to follow Christ but don’t know where to start because they show the desire. I know not to become friends with people who don’t share my same morals, values and lifestyle because they aren’t ready for a friendship with me. They have to come to an awakening and want better for themselves or they won’t be able to give fully to a friendship. Let’s pray!

 

Father,

I come to you thanking you for your love, protection, forgiveness and mercy. Thank you for healing my heart and showing me that where I am is not where I am staying. Thank you for removing the bad because I believe you are preparing to introduce me with good. I thank you for the pain before the preparation because it is working for my good. Going forward Lord please surround me with people who have a heart for you. My desire is to bring more people to you and make your kingdom full with believers and win over unbelievers. I know that you will heal my heart further and I’m looking forward to the greater that is coming. My prayer for the future is that you give me the discernment and strength to release people who are coming to me with ill intentions. Reveal them Father! I also pray for the people who were shown not to be right in my life. Work on them, work in them and give them a heart that convicts and repents. It is in your name these things are counted done and I Pray,

 

Amen

 

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Don’t forget! I run a Single Christian ladies ministry and it has been such a blessing! It is called Bare Faces Pure Hearts and I’d love to encourage and connect with you on your social media. I’m also merging/ leading another Singles Ministry but I’ll release more information on that in the future! God bless you and share, repost and spread my blogs if they are a blessing to you! I’m standing with you in prayer as always! -Ms. McDonald

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The definition of empty is containing nothing, not filled or occupied. So what happens when we as people start to feel empty? Wearing a smile but on the inside of us feeling like we are broken, nothing to offer and plain ol empty. For some people you may have grown accustom to putting on this front so it doesn’t seem strange, sound familiar? We’ll I come to tell you, it is time to fill your glass through the word of GOD.

For the past few weeks my sister and I have been battling people over our children. With my daughter, it has been body image and she is only 5!!!! I didn’t know this issue was possible at such a young age but I’m not shocked because I too battled it. I came to find out my daughter is feeling self conscious because a little boy in her class  has been making comments about her. Now I’ll be honest, I told her to knock his head off( pray for me) but I had to retract the statement.  I immediately started to reaffirm her, telling her God does not make mistakes and she is fearfully and wonderfully made (psalms 139:14). I ended up telling her not to even play with him anymore because he is not being nice to her.  As a woman I understand we have to deal with men our entire lives, what we go through young does carry into adulthood. If you have a little boy downing you at 5, that sets a tone and you have a duty to protect yourself and be protected.

For my sister the issue is quite different because it’s adults being inappropriate with her daughter. I’m talking about people who should KNOW better, like too old to be antagonizing a child. My niece was born premature so she can’t sit down for long periods of time, talks more than some children and might act up a bit. We know these things but some adults aren’t smarter than 5th graders and just write children off as bad because they do not fit their mold. From the school to some other places it’s been a battle, people pushing her to the side, kicking her out of places (YES A 5 YEAR OLD) all because they haven’t taken the time to understand her. This made me VERY upset and even brought my sister to tears because of the treatment and stress. I was so upset because God has said children are a gift to us and we are to treat them well (psalms 127: 3-5) . When adults forget this, they are able to do things that they know are not right and God will punish them for it. 

In these situations we have felt empty, tired of repeating ourselves and having to tell grown ups how to handle children. You’d think it was pretty simple but it is not and can cause you to feel helpless. The thing that encourages me is that, God is fighting this battle with us and he knows our heart. He knows we honestly want the best for our children and he knows that we are going to follow his guidance on the situation. A verse that encourages me is Matthew 11:28 going down to 30 and it simply says ” Come unto me, all that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Somebody ought to feel encouraged right there because he just told you, you aren’t carrying this alone. Give it to me and I will work it out for you, where you can only do so much I can do all things so let me handle this. This is a situation where all you can do is trust him to turn it around and watch him work his blessings over you and your situation. That empty feeling you went to sleep on should’ve been given to him in your night time prayer to him. I have a habit of flopping down face first on my bed and calling on the name of Jesus. I just get to that point where the only thing I can say is Jesus, help me, I am DONE and I can’t handle this. He sweeps right in and reassures me that he has this and to release my cares on to him and he will refill my once empty feeling cup. When you are feeling empty in your flesh, take time to feed your spirit because he has a blessing for you. You aren’t going through this trial in vain, he is strengthening you and building your faith muscle. When you have less just remember there is an On on the end, this LESSon is just preparing you for greater ahead and you need to know that! Rest in his word, believe in his promises and watch the outcome of your situation. Let’s pray!

 

Dear Gracious Father,

I thank you for waking me this morning, thank you for giving me a testimony, thank you for working things out for me that I can’t even see. As I come to you today I ask that you would touch the hearts of people who are mistreating my children. I ask that you create a plan for these people to learn to show you instead of their flesh. I don’t know what things they are going through behind the scenes but I ask that you touch their hearts, minds, souls and lives so they can be better in you. I ask that you continue to fight for and with myself and my children as I try to teach them your ways. Lord I know you are mighty and that you can turn any bad situation into a beautiful situation and I believe you for that in my situation.  Thank you Lord for loving me, protecting me, strengthening me and guiding me in life, in your name I pray,

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I can count on both hands and feet how many times people have told me to fight for what I believe in. We believe just because we believe in it, it is going to work in our favor, right? WRONG, I’m here to tell you if you don’t consult God, it is not going to work in your favor. I’ve been placed in difficult positions lately, from friendships to teachers and family and it just gets tough. You think if your fight is for a good cause nobody will be able to deny you and they WILL. 

Recently I decided to reach out to a state program that my daughter attends because it just hasn’t been flowing right. I’d tried speaking to the teacher and she just wasn’t receptive. When I enrolled her I was told it was Pre-K but they had so many different elements in the classroom I didn’t believe she would learn anything. I’m talking about children ages 3-5, some don’t speak English, they were playing all day and I was just fed up. After getting no where with the teacher I finally had to call in the big dogs also known as the director and state officials. It went from the blame game to the straight up “how much money do you have to put toward this program?” I was shocked because I thought inquiring about a proper education for my soon to be kindergartner would be smiled upon. Sadly it was not and I felt totally defeated, I got off the phone feeling like a dart had been shot into my chest.

I simply had to just pull out woman’s biggest weapon known to man, prayer. I laid on my bed and just poured my heart out to God, letting him know how I felt and asking for his direction. I wanted to get things done on MY timing not giving God the upper hand and letting him work things out. I just felt an urgency to “make them do their job” but God was sitting me down to watch him work. Isn’t it sometimes frustrating when we cant get things our way? Don’t you just despise having to stay in your seat when you feel you were called to action? Well don’t because God has a plan for your hardships and frustration.

After my attempts, I’m still unsure of what the outcome is but I trust and believe he is working things out on my behalf. I truly believe he will not let things continue the way they have been going. Although I want to keep fighting for it, I refuse to get in his way trying to fix things myself. He has promised me in his word that what is meant for my bad, he’ll turn for my good so I’ll rest in that. I also know for without faith it is impossible to please him. I won’t give bible scriptures because I want you to go look it up for yourself. Just know that your crying is only momentarily, it has it’s expiration date and he is going to take care of it, WHEN you leave it to him.

So I’m excited to share with you guys what George shared with me about being a man of God. If you follow him on Twitter or Instagram, you are well aware of the fact that HE GOES IN for God! I stumbled upon him in the celibacy hash-tag and the wisdom from this young man of God blew my mind. I just want to give a special thank you for being the first guy to feature on my blog and sharing your heart. You are an AMAZING example of a young man on fire for God and I appreciate you!

1. Tell me about yourself.

1. I’m a 26 year old young man. My life has been a sensual journey that abruptly and undoubtedly lead me right back to Christ. I am passionate about truth that provokes thoughts that induce curiosity that yields freedom. I am passionate about prosperity. I love achievement and I earnestly believe we all have a giant within us that needs to be awaken. I am the evolution of influence and affluence. Without God I am nothing. He has given me my identity and my purpose. Through my struggle I am able to usher in thought for others; I am here to uplift the name of Christ. He says that if I do this he’ll draw all men unto himself. It’s my faith that propels me forward. Impossibility is the only thing that intrigues me. With faith, impossible things are transmuted into abundant substance. My ultimate goal in life is to see the unveiling of the glory of God through the life of a sinner saved by grace who has subverted my own will for the perfect will of God.

2.Do you practice and promote celibacy? Why?

Yes, I practice as well as promote celibacy. I also refrain from masturbation. I will do so until I am married. The reason I made this choice is because I decided to commit to God. Commitment was a foreign concept to me when I initially began my walk with Christ so there were times that I fell, but I adamantly wanted to get it right. Just committing wasn’t enough for me though; I always need for things to challenge me logically, so God gave me this:

God- Do you love Me?

Me- Yes!

God- Do you love your mother?

Me- Of course!

God- Am I Omnipresent?

Me- Yes!

God- Is your mother omnipresent?

Me- No

God- Do you love your mother more than you love me?

Me- Certainly not!

God- Well why is that you have never had sex or maturbated in the presence of your mother, but you continually do it in my presence?

Me- ……….

This revolutionized my life! The commandment is to have no other gods before Him. What I had mistakenly done was placed my mother before God. A mistake that I would correct once and for all. To love God is to obey Him. There is no love devoid obedience.

3. What does being a man of God mean to you?

Deciding to be a man of God is the greatest decision I have ever made. To me it’s the essence of manhood. With out God, without a beginning there is no reference point. Without a reference man ultimately becomes the measure of all things. We become gods in our on right. If this is the case mankind is susquently, if not immediately reduced to pure relativism. Without God we have no definition of ourselves. He is where it begins. Once a man accepts Christ as his personal savior, then and only then does have truly have the capacity to become a man.

4. Do you believe celibacy is something that all brothers should practice?

Celibacy is certainly something brothers should practice. We establish order. If the man is out of order the home is out of order and disorder is not exclusive to the home. It is viral. Perversion is the plan of the enemy. If men don’t have an intimate relationship with God there is no true divinity within the family or community.

5.What advice would you give to young men who believe they are too flawed to come to Christ?

I would tell them they are exactly where Christ needs them to be to use them mightily! I thought the same thing, but it is the furthest thing from truth. Christ say that “if we would believe in our hearts and confess with our mouths that we would be saved.”

6.What event in your life brought you to Christ?

It was a seemingly random event that brought me to Christ. I was walking through the cafe one day at school NC A&T; my friend stopped me and asked me “Hey G, who are you living for today? God or the devil?” Of course my answer was God, but it was a lie to save face. It was like I had an encounter with the Son of man himself. That moment changed my entire perspective on things and since that day I ask myself that question on a daily basis. It still holds as much weight now as it did then.

7.What words of wisdom do you want to share with brothers in Christ regarding Celibacy & growing closer to God?

The advice I would give would be to take a look at your heart and at your true motives. Do you “love” these women for your sake or for theirs? Think of the way you would like a man to love your daughters. Think of the respect that you would like for him to honor her with. Would you be fair in demanding that respect from any man if you are not man enough to embody those exact statutes? Figure out what it is you want for your life. Start to plan for your death. Think of it as a blueprint for a house. We are God derivatives. We were not put here to be average, therefore we cannot employ average thoughts or deeds. We are called to lead. To be righteous in his sight. We are the healers of society. If we don’t know love, and God is love, then we know anything. If we know nothing our sons will know nothing, if our sons know nothing our daughters have no identity. Ergo a nameless generation. Slaves.

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As a woman whose been in relationships that weren’t the best for me, I realize how you can get swept up in lust covered as love. It’s very easy to get caught up in the feeling vs. the reality of your relationship. You make excuses for why he/she is the one and how they make your heart smile and so on. He looks like everything you dreamed of as a child, she looks like everything you wanted in a woman as a young boy. What happens when it turns out to be just a facade? What happens when you are gut punched with the reality of he/she not being who lust told you they were on your journey seeking love? I’ll tell you what happens, you end in the fetal position on your bed asking God why.

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Growing up, if you are lucky your parents sat you down and told you what to expect from a relationship. You were raised deep in the word of God and the dangers of premarital sex were explained to you. If you are like most people I know, that didn’t happen so you were left fending for yourself to figure out what love was. I’m 25 and the first time lust was explained to me was in a blog and that was AFTER i became a single mom. I don’t mean the cute version of single mom, I mean the child is with you 24 AND the 7, no social life and no resources kind of single motherhood. The word SOUL TIE was introduced to me last year when I started to diligently seek Christ. I’m writing this blog because even though I got it late, I want to share it with you early, here today, right now.

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What you should know is when you are seeking love God has already given it to you. There is nothing you can do to change the way he feels about you. He knows you are going to mess up and that’s why he sent his son to die for you. What you seek in man or woman, he’s already giving you so be fulfilled in that. Nothing about love equals lust, either it is or it isn’t and that’s how you should view people. I used to be one of those girls who fell in love with potential. Oh it wasn’t anything you could tell me about it either, I’d defend the unemployment, I’d defend the other girls and I’d dare you to challenge me. Granted I’d never picked up a bible to see what God said love was. I don’t want you to be the one who doesn’t pick up a bible so you travel the world seeking something that isn’t real.

The day I woke up from forever was when I’d found myself in a toxic relationship. I thought because I waited 6 months to have sex that I was doing something. I tied my soul up and BAD, for those of you who don’t know a soul tie is when you have sex with someone who has not put some papers and a ring on it! If he didn’t approach you, court you, consult God on your relationship/ courtship, wait for confirmation from God, get a yes from God, propose to you, go to the court house file for a marriage license, stand before you and your family and friends and marry you then get intimate, you’ve tied souls. Premarital sex creates a soul tie because you are sharing your body with someone other than your husband/wife.

I know some people don’t believe it takes all that and those are the people I tell “READ YOUR BIBLE!” I got all caught up with a toxic person even became a mother from that toxic relationship and it brought me to right here today. Now I understand had I not went through that, I wouldn’t have a relationship with Christ. Sure, I identified with Christianity but I never knew it actually came along with task until I gave my life fully to him. I now know if a man wants to have sex, kiss all on me and get in my personal space he isn’t for me! I desire a man of God, not just one who sits in a church on Sunday and Wednesday nights right beside a Pastor because it looks good. I won’t settle for a man other than one who is so lost in God that he bleeds the word because I am lost in my word that way.

I desire a man who is God lead now, not flesh lead because that’ll breed fleshly desires and I’ve been there before. I now know what God says about me, what he requires of me and what it means to have a relationship with him. Just because you are in a relationship that doesn’t bring God glory doesn’t mean you have to stay in it. You can get out of that at anytime, you can stop answering those late night phone calls for him/her tonight. Pick up your bible and read what LOVE truly is and how that’s what you should require and give. Don’t let what you want him/her to be cloud your judgement and cause you to miss out on the one God has for you. You are SOOOOOOOOOO worth the best! You are SOOOO worth being loved and cared for and not just for someone’s temporary pleasures! Don’t leave this earth stuck in the mentality that you should be OK with a flesh lead relationship. You are priceless, God fights for you, he gave his son FOR YOU! I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t give up my only son for a bunch of sinners but God did because he thinks that much of YOU! Just love yourself, just thank God for that thought alone, just start off with you desire for better and progression. Let’s Pray!

Dear Heavenly Father,

I thank you for your son, I thank you for this day to do better, I thank you for your love and your mercy. As I sit before you I ask you create in me a clean heart. I ask that you show me how to love myself the way you love me! I need you Lord and you’ve been so merciful and awesome while I’ve been stuck in my mess. I vow to do better and choose to serve you and bring glory and honor to your name. I know I deserve the best and I trust you will bring the best to me as I travel this journey called life. As I fall on my knees begging for your forgiveness for the sins I’ve committed I trust and believe you are working things out for my good. As times get tough I will turn to you and seek your guidance because I know you’ve got me. Thank you Lord for the awakening I’ve been given today and may I be a vessel for you forever.

In your precious name it is I pray,’

Amen

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Sometimes we see signs that just confuse us right? We double check our GPS system on our phone to make sure we are in the right area and it still doesn’t look clear. We then have to pull over and reassess, ask people for direction and hope they have an answer right? But what happens when our lives become the GPS system?WE are running around trying to find out where we are, WE are searching for the solution but it’s still not clear, WE are forced to pull over and reassess and ask for direction. WE haven’t even stopped to pray, we haven’t even asked God for his direction and we’ve tried to be a god and do it by ourselves. Let me explain why God’s direction is the ONLY GPS system you need to follow, man will fail you but GOD won’t do it.
This past month proved to be trying for me and I was sinking. I’d gotten out for break from school and my daughter had too so I was happy to be able to relax. The break ended Monday but not before my computer charger shorted out and I didn’t have a way to submit my work. I panicked and started to cry and try with no luck to fix it. I pulled out both of my old chargers and tried to rig them up and it was not working, with my very important assignment nearing. It left me feeling like God was trying to tell me something that I couldn’t hear. I asked God ” What are you trying to tell me?” Do i need to pull back the reigns and not do my ministry? Are you telling me this schooling isn’t for me? What is it?
I’d ordered a new charger on the 3rd so they gave me the 8th or the 9th that it’d be delivered. I went to bed Tuesday night and just poured my heart out to God. I told him how I really wanted to pass this class and how devastating it’d be if I wasn’t able to submit my assignment but I knew he’d work it out. Wednesday came and that’s the day my assignment was due, took it as God was trying to tell me it was time to say goodbye to school and slow down on launching my ministry. It was about 4 O’clock and I was sitting on my couch and UPS pulled up. I was waiting on another package for my sisters birthday so I thought hey, it’s her birthday so it got here on time….it hadn’t BUT my charger HAD. I swung that door open, smiled real bright and snatched the package from his hand & screamed!
I ran to my computer, plugged it in and low and behold that once black light had turned white, indicating it was CHARGING! I continuously said “Thank you Jesus”, over and over again, did that assignment and pressed submit. I was on cloud 9 and not only because the charger had arrived but because GOD heard my heart and answered my prayer. If you open up your bible to Hebrews 11:6 it says But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. This is where you have to faith it til you make it! I had thrown in the towel, I’d taken it as a sign that my ministry and schooling were over but I hadn’t consulted God first. I went trying to fix things on my own and it proved to be out of my control.
When you are lost go to the master, you can try to rig your situation on your back up’s (people) but ONLY GOD can swoop in and save you. He has the mighty hand that’ll make it alright, he has the plan, he has the solution. Temporary fixes won’t work, he’s watching you run around like you have no answer and HE is the answer. Call out to him, tell him I know you are going to work this out, I understand I don’t have the answers but I serve you, aMIGHTY God who will bring all these things together. I put it in your hands and I leave it there where I know it’s safe and taken care of.
If you are in a time where your vision seems to be blurry, you have searched all over and it’s still not clear then I ask you to go to God. Pray, Pray, oh and did I say Pray? LISTEN to him, he does answer, just because it’s not something you WANT to hear doesn’t mean he didn’t answer it. It’s probably not going to come the way or time you want it but it’s coming! Make sure it’ll bring glory to God, if it’s for self gratification then he isn’t going to honor that. Be God lead, not flesh lead and trust God’s direction.
-Deema
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So I want to send a special shout out to Ms Brittney as busy as she is, she made time to fill out my feature questionnaire. She not only gave biblical answers but she also gave some great insight on starting your own ministry guidelines! Sis I thank you soooo much for being willing and open to share this journey. As I told you in our email, you inspire and encourage me daily and I can’t thank you enough for being such a beautiful vessel for Christ! Without further ado, Brittney Moses!!!!!!!

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  • Tell me about yourself?

My name is Brittney Moses. Im the mother of (currently 4 year old) Austin Moses. I was born and raised in Los Angeles and recently moved to Dallas, Texas in January 2013. I was raised in the church but fell away in my teenage years after the divorce of my parents which led to a downfall of cutting, stealing, smoking, clubbing, drinking, and entering numerous broken relationships among other things. I met my husband in high school where we got pregnant at eighteen causing us to settle down quite a bit. Shortly after having my son we got saved, baptized and married. We dedicated ourselves to the mission of the church- giving, serving and growing. I spent about three years in the valley and in the shadows growing my personal relationship with Christ, Studying the Word in depth, empowering and increasing my prayer life. Our lost generation became an extremely heavy burden on my heart after living that lifestyle and seeing so many broken and confused around me. Years later God planted the Unashamed Impact mission in my heart to gather, equip and send out a generation in their God given purpose. Since then we’ve become a worldwide organization of young people reaching out to the community and living our lives according to the Word of God. Outside of Unashamed Impact I love the arts- music, dancing, dramas, musicals, writing and anything creative. I studied musical theater and film in school and did competitive figure skating when I was younger. Most people dont know that side of me.

  • What brought you to starting your ministry?

When I really began to take my faith seriously and walk out this Christian lifestyle I shortly found myself feeling lonely. Not only was I now a teenage mother but I was a Christian and took on a life that was very much in contrast with the world around me and all my friends. I soon lost everything that sin gave me. It was bittersweet to be torn away from my old life. As I lost the world around me I also was pushing closer to Christ. It was an interesting dynamic. Then I began to feel hurt for those who were trapped in the empty lifestyle I was now free from. My brother was in a gang and many of my friends were still broken. I realized young people just didnt have many examples of what it looks like to live a healthy lifestyle in Christ. Many didnt know how.

I’d been tweeting a while based on my experience and learnings of Christ which began to gather a following. I began a blog and started writing encouraging letters to young believers to press on in their faith and that they’re not alone and to not compromise for the pressures of this lost world. I began recieving a lot of feedback and readers from other countires. They told me how alone they felt in their faith- that they felt like they were the only ones their age that really followed Christ. But what if we gathered every young believer across the world to represent a generation after Christ? What if we lead the rest of out generation out of their brokenness and to Christ by example? Who better to identify with then your own peers? Thats when Unashamed Impact birthed in my heart. God began to flood me with ideas, plans, sturcture. It started with a youtube video of the vision and from there became a worldwide organization that later evolved into the four main points of Fellowship, Being an Example, Evangelism, and Community Outreach. I give God the glory that we can be a part of His Kingdom plan.

  •  What does your ministry teach women?

The ministry isn’t geared toward a specific gender but the overall focus is to teach them how to live out their God given purpose, how to have a growing relationship with Christ, how to uphold your value in Christ and not compromise for who the world tries to make you out to be.

  • Do you promote celibacy?

Yes. We encourage living our lives governed by the Word of God which includes saving yourself for marriage. I like to say sex is Gods wedding gift to you. =)

This is very important to me being a married woman who didnt save herself for marriage. It distorted my view of sex into something dark, lusty and preverted when it is suppose to be a beautiful way to become one with your spouse and communicate a pure love. Going into a marriage with this perverted image of sex as a born again Christian can damage and rip you off of sacred intimacy with your spouse. I believe God knows whats best for us and ordains it this way for many reasons.

  •  What’s one piece of advice you give to a wife in waiting who’s growing impatient?

A couple things:

1. Use this time to focus on and learn more about you. I will speak from personal experience and getting married young. Once you become married or a mother your family becomes your life. If you arent secure in who you are, if you are still dealing with brokenness, etc it will carry into your family. No ones perfect so there will always be things you can fix about yourself but if you focus on becoming whole in Christ it will only create an opportunity for an even healthier marriage. Use this waiting time to do the things you like! Take a dance class, travel a bit, meet new people and make friends. Take advantage of these things now! Also think of yourself as married to Christ until your married to your husband (even though it carries on past that). Dont forget your first love- Christ. Spend time with him, cry at his feet, read his love letter to you (The Bible). No man will make you whole. Dont give men Jesus expectations because they are imperfect and your husband may dissapoint you on many ocassions.

2. Stop rushing. Whoever you marry is going to be your LIFETIME partner. You will have the REST of your life to spend with them verses maybe the few years you’re single. Not only that but the Bible says not to “awaken love before its due”. You probably know as well as I do that entering relationships prematurely and outside of Gods timing only leads to future confusion, hurt and possible brokenness. If it isnt Gods plan for you then why work against it? You’ll only wind up hurting yourself and asking “why? why did this happen? why does this always happen to me? I cant keep a solid man.” No, this is a result of entering premature relationships for the sake of being desperate. You can be alone without being lonely. Enjoy you, love you, sing to you, dance with yourself. Like I said previously, do the things you love that drive your God given passions and contribute to those around you. Men love a woman who knows and enjoys herself. You can smell co dependancy from a mile away. Dont become a mans project, become his queen- someone who can stand strong beside him, comfortable in who she is without or without him.

  •  How has starting your own ministry changed your life?

I dont even know where to start. But honestly, its increased my faith, shown me what it really means to be a slave to Christ and the importance of our family in Christ.

Unashamed Impact is a very organic organization right now. Everything thus far has been out of pocket besides donations here and there. But when we decide were going to do a mission whether feeding the homeless, an orphanage, or providing gifts for Christmas we dedicate ourselves to it and God ALWAYS shows through. Many of us take a hit in our finances to see others impact by this mission and I believe God honors that everytime. The way we’ve grown, the way we’ve been able to provide and that lives that have changed because of this have increased my faith and trust in him tremendously. Sometimes we dont know how things are going to happen but they do.

Starting this ministry has caused me to sacrifice a lot. Time, finances, emotions, etc and pour pour pour into people. Sometimes he calls us to do things we dont feel like doing. But theres a conviction in you that leaves with no choise BUT to help, but to obey, but to give. When you truly stand for the mission he’s given you you find that others who dont know him will hate you for it. Its really shown me the meaning of slave and sacrifice. Its worth it every day.

  •  What advice would you give to a woman who’s interested in starting a ministry but doesn’t know how to start?

I would definitely pray on it and ask for confirmation. You don’t want to start up something just for the sake of doing it or just off a good idea. When God gives you a calling you’re fueled by it and fulfilled in it. You’re willing to do whatever it take for it within Gods will of course. You’re ready to dedicate yourself to it and it feels natural when youre doing it. The last thing we want to do is try to make something work thats outside of Gods eill.

For starters I would write out the vision and make it clear: The Mission, The Purpose, and How the Purpose of the mission is going to be fulfilled. Through what actions? I would use all social media outlets: twitter, facebook page, website with blog, instagram and the specific places God my lead you.

If you plan on really taking this into a full fledged ministry/organization you’ll want to go online and make sure the name isnt already taken and get your DBA (Doing Business As) it basically gives you a claim on the name. From their you try to raise funds to get it incorporated (we did ours through the secretary of state). Legalzoom is a pretty common way. Lawyers charge crazy amounts but if you know someone in that field who can help, dont hesitate to ask!

Definitely plan on having a team. The worst and most burdensome thing you can do is trying to do everything on your own. At the beginning of course itll be mostly you, but the more you share the vision and bring people on or others show interest you’ll want to distribute the tasks and give everyone clear responsibilities. This way you wont burn out and can also focus on the vision and pushing that forward. You have positions like an administrative asst, social media person to run your social sites, maybe an event planner, whichever way the cards fall.

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So it’s the holiday season and you’re starting to see all your married friends family pictures, your friends with their boyfriends and people arranging trips to go home for the holidays. You’re sitting home single and just can’t believe it’s been 5 months, 1 year, 2 years and so forth of you being single. I know you can grow restless in your waiting on God for a mate so I’m here to reassure you that singleness is NOT a disease and get you through your lonely nights.

1. Realize that you are single for a reason: Whether you are recently out of a relationship because of “growing apart”, infidelity, or you realized he/ she wasn’t the one, this is a time to regroup. Coming out of a relationship is very hard, especially if you’ve created a soul tie (will be discussed in a future blog) to someone. You need to realize you left that situation for a reason so don’t fret about being single.

2. DO NOT STALK YOUR EXES SOCIAL MEDIA: If I had $1 for every time someone ran my exes information back to me, I’d be rich! Do not go looking at an old flames Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or e.t.c trying to see what or who they have going on. Realize it’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what they are up to!!! It’s only going to cause you to become sad, depressed and make hell for you to survive the Christmas holiday. Think about it, you’re going to be playing your sad cd with a bottle of Patron looking really ridiculous!

3. Make sure you go spend time with your family: I don’t know about you but cooking on Christmas and enjoying some nice gospel music with my family brings me such joy. You get to be surrounded by family you may have not seen in awhile, eat great food and act silly and not be judged for it!

4. You get to enjoy a quiet house: Oh how I miss those years before becoming a mother! Don’t get me wrong, my daughter is an amazing gift, couldn’t imagine life without her but I MISS SLEEP! When you’re single you control you’re schedule, after work you can just enjoy a nice bubble bath, a glass of wine or even stay up late on Friday nights.

5. You have uninterrupted time with God: When you have a boyfriend or become married you may lose focus on studying your word, going to bible study and your prayer life may even suffer. Sometimes you pray and believe God for your mate and once you get them, it becomes GOOD LOOKING OUT JESUS,BYE! Don’t look at the screen like that, IT DOES HAPPEN! Being single you have time to get lost in your bible, serve in a ministry and fulfill your dreams. The season of singleness is the PERFECT time to figure yourself out, not sit around twiddling your thumbs.

6. Realize this is just a season: You won’t always be single so enjoy the motions of this season. I know when you’ve been single for a substantial amount of time you start thinking you’re going to die single. It’s NOT true, God just hasn’t said it’s your time so if you are submitting to him and following his word, he’ll send him/her. You have standards that you aren’t willing to compromise right? So just have FAITH and PATIENCE in what God is doing!  Let’s Pray!

Dear Lord,

I thank you for waking me this morning, I thank you for keeping me safe, I thank you for being an awesome provider and for loving me in spite of all my flaws. I ask for your forgiveness for any sins I’ve committed today and ask you to create in me a clean heart. I ask that you bring me peace in my season of singleness. I ask that you wrap your arms around me in my times of loneliness and guide me on your path. I understand this is just a temporary situation and trust you to bring a man/ woman into my life in your timing. Forgive me for being impatient and wanting to go before your plans. Your ways breed the best results so I’ll stand still and trust in you to bring my heart’s desires to pass. I love you Lord and you are so amazing, you’re awesome and so worthy to be praised. In Jesus name I pray,

Amen

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Another wonderful young lady who I connected with via Instagram who was open and willing to share her journey. I emailed her and she had no hesitation about spreading her journey to further God’s kingdom and help our single sisters out. Sis I thank you for being so open and willing to feature on my blog and represent the kingdom. I absolutely adore you and love your ministry and we are going to make this Celibacy thing BIG with the help of God.

 

Celibacy Feature

       1.   Tell me about yourself:

My name is Jasmine Harris, and I am single, saved, satisfied, seeking the Lord and saving my goodies for marriage J I am the CEO and Founder of Confessions of a Single Christian and I’m So Worth It ministries. God birthed Confessions of a Single Christian 12.22.12, and I’m So Worth It 03.13.13—each of these ministries were conceived from my pain and God has used it for his purpose and glory. Confessions of a Single Christian and I’m So Worth It vision is for women to find joy in their season of singleness, become complete in Christ, pursue their purpose, and discover their identity and worth in Jesus Christ. There was a cry of Tamar from women in the body of Christ, and women in general. There was a cry from women that have been used, abused and thrown out like yesterday’s garbage and left to pick up the pieces, and make sense of their life and worth. This cry has been heard by God, and he has commissioned and appointed me to help restore the woman that has been broken, to help mend the woman that has been used, and to bring healing to the woman that has been beaten. So many women have defined their worth by the men in their lives, or lack thereof whether it be a romantic relationship or father, and my ministries were birthed to awaken their worth and purpose in Christ Jesus! (Sorry this was so long, but I am extremely passionate about women being whole in Christ and I desire to help them in this process to purpose

2.   What brought you to the celibate lifestyle?

Pain, heartbreak and disappointment brought me to the celibacy lifestyle; however, it is Jesus’s grace that has kept and his love, which has maintained me! I was tired of giving my all in meaningless and purposeless relationships. I was giving my all to everyone except Jesus. I would only go to God when I needed his hands, and I was never seeking his heart. In the summer of 2008, my life was completely turned upside down, and when I was in a very dark place Jesus’s light came and found me. At the point of hitting rock bottom I found The Rock, Jesus Christ and re-dedicated my life to Christ, and began a path of purity and pursuing my purpose in Christ!

3. How has being celibate changed your life?

Oh my goodness—I have sooooooooo much peace and clarity. Being celibate has completely changed my life for the better. It has pushed me so much closer to Christ and I see things so much clearer than before. Sex before marriage clouds your mind and judgment, and celibacy clears those clouds. I can only speak for myself, but when I was in the world having sex I tolerated so much because the sex had me confused and in bondage. Celibacy broke those chains and set me free—free in Christ, free in my body, free in my mind and free in my spirit.

 

4. Do you believe celibacy is something that all women should practice?

I absolutely 110% think all women AND men should pursue purity until marriage. Sex before marriage cheapens the courting/dating process. Your marriage night is supposed to be a gift to one another and glorify God, because you honored him with your life and body during the courtship. As a couple saving sex for marriage allows you to really get to know each other and work things out instead of covering up your pain and problems with the temporary solution of sex. When you are  practicing celibacy during courtships forces you to get in front of God with your problems instead of the bed to cover them up

5. What advice would you give to women struggling with deciding to become celibate?

My advice is the struggle is real, but nothing you can’t overcome in Christ. When God says, “My Grace Is Sufficient” you have to believe that, lean on it and depend on it. I would encourage you to remove anyone and anything from your life that would cause you to stumble in your walk. There was a season I could not listen to any love songs or watch any romantic movies or novels. My mind would go on one heck of a trip, and take me back to sexual thoughts and memories. I seriously had to renew my mind daily and depend on God’s grace to get me through, and take it one day at a time.  Through time, daily denying your flesh and feeding your spirit with the Word of God you can and will go from struggling to surviving. You can do it!! You can achieve celibacy!! You can pursue purity, but not in your own strength.

 

6.What do you say to the women in a relationship who’s been sexually active with her boyfriend and believes she can’t stop having sex with him now because she’s already started?

I would say you never know unless you STOP!! And, if your boyfriend does not respect your decision to honor Christ with your body, then he is not the man God has for you point, blank, period!! Get out of the relationship, stop settling and chase Christ with your whole heart, and rest in God until he sends you the right man and awakens love in your life. You Can Do It Girl!!!!

7. What words of wisdom do you want to share with our sisters in Christ regarding Celibacy?

I want to tell my single sisters that you are so beautiful, so worth it, so worth waiting for, and so worth pursuing. You are such a precious jewel in the eye’s of

 What w God and he never intended for anyone to use you or abuse you, but whatever someone has done to you it does not take away how much God loves you or your worth in Christ. No matter what you’ve done or allowed to be done to you—you can always come back to God for forgiveness and restore your relationship with Christ. You do not have to settle or lower your standards for love, because the man God has for you will respect your body, heart and be in agreement with your decision to pursue purity. Do not be afraid to walk away from anyone that does not respect you or your beliefs. You are loved! You are sooooooooooooo Worth It!!

 

 

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