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Let me start off by saying some people may not agree with my method and for various reasons. I completely understand some people feel people are lazy, don’t work hard enough, plain old selfish and also struggling BUT I hope I can change your views by the end of the blog. If you read your word (Bible), God spoke of the poor being with us always and helping our fellow brother and sister and it left me to think; who is helping? Let me explain to you why this blog HAD to be written and how you CAN apply it to your life and the way you handle people.

This past week I was rolling down the highway, music blaring and a smile on my face. The exit came up, I took it and as I turned back around, there sat a young man with a sign. I didn’t even get to read the sign because I was scrambling so hard for the dollars I had in my purse. As I came to the light, I shut my music off, rolled down my window and his head turned my way. He jumped up, grabbed the dollars and I went to turn my music back on BUT he started to talk. I leaned close to the window and he said, man I really appreciate this because I’ve been out here for 2 1/2 hours and have only gotten $1. I said really? He said yes, people just roll their windows up and keep passing me. I said aww man, that is not right and the light changed green so I told him God bless you and pulled off. As soon as I took that left turn my eyes filled up with tears and I started praying for that young man. I was tore UP, because I couldn’t imagine how that must have felt to be continuously passed by people who COULD help. People who have the money in their wallet but they are so full of human thoughts instead of God’s love that they will not help.

Let me make it real plain for you, the person you snare your nose at, roll your window up on, yell get a job to COULD BE AN ANGEL!!!!!!! Just imagine with all the things you pray to God for, he snaring his nose at your sinful self, OHHHH WAIT, NO he sent his son to die for you! As horrible as your sins are/were, as bad as you were before you knew him, he STILL thought that much of YOU. So ask yourself, how can I treat someone so harshly because they need help? What in YOU thinks to forget God informing us the poor will be with us always? I’m really passionate about it because I’ve been hungry, I’ve ran out of gas, food and anything else you could think of. It was NEVER that I was lazy, a “hustler”, not trying hard enough or any of those things, it was because I had simply ran out of money to supply it. God places people there that can help you on your journey, it may not come in ways we imagine but he places people there that SHOULD help.

Maybe it is just me but I’m believing God for too much, to be stingy or looking down my nose on someone needing help. I need help FREQUENTLY so I can’t look down on someone I mirror. Just because I’m not on a corner, in unclean clothes and unkempt hair DOES NOT mean I don’t face struggles. You can walk around in your fancy clothes, drive a nice car, live in the “best place in your city” and FEEL like you are doing better than some BUT; our graves all look the same. When you die, your amenities and possessions cease to matter because you get buried in the same grave yard as those people you once looked down on. What you should be concerned with is if God will turn you away for all the people you turned away. Ohhhh you can fall out in the pews on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights but if your heart is not in the right place, God will deal with you accordingly. Never think God has a VIP section in heaven because he does NOT, you’ll be judged with those people and they may get in while you get turned away.

Going forward to today, I left church after receiving an amazing word and confirmation in my own situation. I was floating on cloud 9, in my spirit, feeling light and ready to conquer the day’s task. I pulled into the Wendy’s parking lot, got my daughter out the car and there sat a man. He appeared really young and had a kind of harsh demeanor so I got kind of scared, but kept walking toward the door. My sister was behind me with her daughter and as I pulled the door open, I heard him say something to her. She responded and I asked what he had said to her and she said he asked for food. I went inside, stood in line, ordered my food BUT I ordered something for him as well. As we left I opened the door, bent down and tapped his shoulder and he turned around. As soon as he saw that bag, that harsh demeanor melted right off of his face and went into a gorgeous smile. I smiled back and said this is for you and here you go as I handed him money as well. He said oh that’s whats up (slang terms in Oakland: thank you), thank you and before I could even say you’re welcome and God bless you, HE SAID IT FIRST! I immediately thought, God sent me here to bless you and showed his love through me. Now his face was probably so unfriendly because he had sat out there, people walking by laughing with their food in hand and wouldn’t even help. 

A take away from this blog is, it could be you one day! All it takes is for you to lose your job and there you will be needing a hand out. There is no feeling like hunger, no lie, being hungry is NOT a good feeling, even if you are fasting. Just imagine fasting and somebody sitting in front of you with a big cheese burger, fries and a good soda. You have the option to break your fast but imagine being hungry and someone having the money but not helping you. I doubt you would feel very good and GOD does NOT shine on you when you treat people that way. Refocus yourself and show people the love of God, help them if you can and do it with a pure heart and good intentions. There’s a statement that I absolutely despise and that is; ” GET A JOB”. Ohhhhh when I hear it, I almost lose my religion and curse people out. When people say that my rebuttal is, well you have a job and you’re that stingy/nasty so why would I want to get a job so I blend in with you? When I do get a job, I will continue to help people because I remember what it feels like to need help. Yes I’m from the grimy streets of Oakland, Ca BUT I’m good, I love the Lord, I treat people as I want to be treated, I run a Christian blog and I’m not passing judgement on anybody. God knows my heart is in the right place, he knows that I kill my flesh daily to bring glory to his name and spread his word. Does God know that about you? He SHOULD and if he doesn’t you’ve got some work to do.

 

Before I close this blog I want to call your attention to my ministry Bare Faces Pure Hearts, it is very new and I’m very happy to announce I’m on Instagram: barefacespurehearts , Twitter: @Wogmovement25 and will be launching a website VERY soon. I promote celibacy, celebrating yourself as a single, removing the hair weaves AND make-up and getting into the love of Christ. I know in today’s society it is hard to love yourself the way God does so I’m refueling our young, old and middle aged single women through the word of God. Connect with me, pray with me,share my blogs, tell a friend and most importantly READ YOUR BIBLES! Read the rest of this entry »

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The definition of empty is containing nothing, not filled or occupied. So what happens when we as people start to feel empty? Wearing a smile but on the inside of us feeling like we are broken, nothing to offer and plain ol empty. For some people you may have grown accustom to putting on this front so it doesn’t seem strange, sound familiar? We’ll I come to tell you, it is time to fill your glass through the word of GOD.

For the past few weeks my sister and I have been battling people over our children. With my daughter, it has been body image and she is only 5!!!! I didn’t know this issue was possible at such a young age but I’m not shocked because I too battled it. I came to find out my daughter is feeling self conscious because a little boy in her class  has been making comments about her. Now I’ll be honest, I told her to knock his head off( pray for me) but I had to retract the statement.  I immediately started to reaffirm her, telling her God does not make mistakes and she is fearfully and wonderfully made (psalms 139:14). I ended up telling her not to even play with him anymore because he is not being nice to her.  As a woman I understand we have to deal with men our entire lives, what we go through young does carry into adulthood. If you have a little boy downing you at 5, that sets a tone and you have a duty to protect yourself and be protected.

For my sister the issue is quite different because it’s adults being inappropriate with her daughter. I’m talking about people who should KNOW better, like too old to be antagonizing a child. My niece was born premature so she can’t sit down for long periods of time, talks more than some children and might act up a bit. We know these things but some adults aren’t smarter than 5th graders and just write children off as bad because they do not fit their mold. From the school to some other places it’s been a battle, people pushing her to the side, kicking her out of places (YES A 5 YEAR OLD) all because they haven’t taken the time to understand her. This made me VERY upset and even brought my sister to tears because of the treatment and stress. I was so upset because God has said children are a gift to us and we are to treat them well (psalms 127: 3-5) . When adults forget this, they are able to do things that they know are not right and God will punish them for it. 

In these situations we have felt empty, tired of repeating ourselves and having to tell grown ups how to handle children. You’d think it was pretty simple but it is not and can cause you to feel helpless. The thing that encourages me is that, God is fighting this battle with us and he knows our heart. He knows we honestly want the best for our children and he knows that we are going to follow his guidance on the situation. A verse that encourages me is Matthew 11:28 going down to 30 and it simply says ” Come unto me, all that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Somebody ought to feel encouraged right there because he just told you, you aren’t carrying this alone. Give it to me and I will work it out for you, where you can only do so much I can do all things so let me handle this. This is a situation where all you can do is trust him to turn it around and watch him work his blessings over you and your situation. That empty feeling you went to sleep on should’ve been given to him in your night time prayer to him. I have a habit of flopping down face first on my bed and calling on the name of Jesus. I just get to that point where the only thing I can say is Jesus, help me, I am DONE and I can’t handle this. He sweeps right in and reassures me that he has this and to release my cares on to him and he will refill my once empty feeling cup. When you are feeling empty in your flesh, take time to feed your spirit because he has a blessing for you. You aren’t going through this trial in vain, he is strengthening you and building your faith muscle. When you have less just remember there is an On on the end, this LESSon is just preparing you for greater ahead and you need to know that! Rest in his word, believe in his promises and watch the outcome of your situation. Let’s pray!

 

Dear Gracious Father,

I thank you for waking me this morning, thank you for giving me a testimony, thank you for working things out for me that I can’t even see. As I come to you today I ask that you would touch the hearts of people who are mistreating my children. I ask that you create a plan for these people to learn to show you instead of their flesh. I don’t know what things they are going through behind the scenes but I ask that you touch their hearts, minds, souls and lives so they can be better in you. I ask that you continue to fight for and with myself and my children as I try to teach them your ways. Lord I know you are mighty and that you can turn any bad situation into a beautiful situation and I believe you for that in my situation.  Thank you Lord for loving me, protecting me, strengthening me and guiding me in life, in your name I pray,

amen

So I’m excited to share with you guys what George shared with me about being a man of God. If you follow him on Twitter or Instagram, you are well aware of the fact that HE GOES IN for God! I stumbled upon him in the celibacy hash-tag and the wisdom from this young man of God blew my mind. I just want to give a special thank you for being the first guy to feature on my blog and sharing your heart. You are an AMAZING example of a young man on fire for God and I appreciate you!

1. Tell me about yourself.

1. I’m a 26 year old young man. My life has been a sensual journey that abruptly and undoubtedly lead me right back to Christ. I am passionate about truth that provokes thoughts that induce curiosity that yields freedom. I am passionate about prosperity. I love achievement and I earnestly believe we all have a giant within us that needs to be awaken. I am the evolution of influence and affluence. Without God I am nothing. He has given me my identity and my purpose. Through my struggle I am able to usher in thought for others; I am here to uplift the name of Christ. He says that if I do this he’ll draw all men unto himself. It’s my faith that propels me forward. Impossibility is the only thing that intrigues me. With faith, impossible things are transmuted into abundant substance. My ultimate goal in life is to see the unveiling of the glory of God through the life of a sinner saved by grace who has subverted my own will for the perfect will of God.

2.Do you practice and promote celibacy? Why?

Yes, I practice as well as promote celibacy. I also refrain from masturbation. I will do so until I am married. The reason I made this choice is because I decided to commit to God. Commitment was a foreign concept to me when I initially began my walk with Christ so there were times that I fell, but I adamantly wanted to get it right. Just committing wasn’t enough for me though; I always need for things to challenge me logically, so God gave me this:

God- Do you love Me?

Me- Yes!

God- Do you love your mother?

Me- Of course!

God- Am I Omnipresent?

Me- Yes!

God- Is your mother omnipresent?

Me- No

God- Do you love your mother more than you love me?

Me- Certainly not!

God- Well why is that you have never had sex or maturbated in the presence of your mother, but you continually do it in my presence?

Me- ……….

This revolutionized my life! The commandment is to have no other gods before Him. What I had mistakenly done was placed my mother before God. A mistake that I would correct once and for all. To love God is to obey Him. There is no love devoid obedience.

3. What does being a man of God mean to you?

Deciding to be a man of God is the greatest decision I have ever made. To me it’s the essence of manhood. With out God, without a beginning there is no reference point. Without a reference man ultimately becomes the measure of all things. We become gods in our on right. If this is the case mankind is susquently, if not immediately reduced to pure relativism. Without God we have no definition of ourselves. He is where it begins. Once a man accepts Christ as his personal savior, then and only then does have truly have the capacity to become a man.

4. Do you believe celibacy is something that all brothers should practice?

Celibacy is certainly something brothers should practice. We establish order. If the man is out of order the home is out of order and disorder is not exclusive to the home. It is viral. Perversion is the plan of the enemy. If men don’t have an intimate relationship with God there is no true divinity within the family or community.

5.What advice would you give to young men who believe they are too flawed to come to Christ?

I would tell them they are exactly where Christ needs them to be to use them mightily! I thought the same thing, but it is the furthest thing from truth. Christ say that “if we would believe in our hearts and confess with our mouths that we would be saved.”

6.What event in your life brought you to Christ?

It was a seemingly random event that brought me to Christ. I was walking through the cafe one day at school NC A&T; my friend stopped me and asked me “Hey G, who are you living for today? God or the devil?” Of course my answer was God, but it was a lie to save face. It was like I had an encounter with the Son of man himself. That moment changed my entire perspective on things and since that day I ask myself that question on a daily basis. It still holds as much weight now as it did then.

7.What words of wisdom do you want to share with brothers in Christ regarding Celibacy & growing closer to God?

The advice I would give would be to take a look at your heart and at your true motives. Do you “love” these women for your sake or for theirs? Think of the way you would like a man to love your daughters. Think of the respect that you would like for him to honor her with. Would you be fair in demanding that respect from any man if you are not man enough to embody those exact statutes? Figure out what it is you want for your life. Start to plan for your death. Think of it as a blueprint for a house. We are God derivatives. We were not put here to be average, therefore we cannot employ average thoughts or deeds. We are called to lead. To be righteous in his sight. We are the healers of society. If we don’t know love, and God is love, then we know anything. If we know nothing our sons will know nothing, if our sons know nothing our daughters have no identity. Ergo a nameless generation. Slaves.

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When you are single the statement “You attract who you are” can be very damaging to your soul. As a woman of God, you read the words God says about you and it seems to conflict with what the world is saying. What voice should you listen to? Why is this stigma placed on single women, waiting to be someone’s good thing? Is this statement really true? How can you respond to people who throw this at you? Lets explore the topic and hopefully by the end of this blog you are empowered, feeling full of knowledge and ready to take on anyone who says this to you.

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First let me explain to you that singleness is NOT a disease, a curse or a cruel punishment from God. Singleness is beauty and you get to learn yourself on such a level. You are given the chance to follow God, uninterrupted and figure out your calling and purpose as it relates to pleasing Christ. I myself am doing A LOT of self work, changed my horrible attitude, connected with God, got into my word really deep, chose a life of celibacy and got on this pursuit of bringing glory to God. This blog and my soon coming ministry #BareFacesPureHearts are apart of my journey to finding myself and doing God’s business. As a single Christian woman I’ve found people tell you to constantly change to be found by a man. It’s always something we could do better or more of in the eyes of the world; whether it be changing our dress attire or changing who we are. None of those things are going to speed up God’s timing for when you find your husband so don’t be fooled.

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I’ve been single for a couple of years now and all I see is “You attract who you are” and it’s simply not true. I get approached by drunken and old men and that is NO reflection of me. I’m 25 so there goes the you’re older so that’s why the old men want you and I do not drink so there goes that theory too. God has a plan for your love life so if you attract broke, old, drunk, thuggy, living off their potential, gold digging, unattractive men, this has NOTHING to do with you. You are beautifully and wonderfully made and God wouldn’t send you someone who will subtract from your life. Don’t spend your time trying to make yourself up or change who you are to be found by a man. The man for you is going to love you from the moment he sees you, accept you flaws and all and love all the woman of God that you are.

What voice should you listen to? You should read your bible and see what God says about you. The world has a different standard of what beauty is. To the world beauty means; heels, long straight hair, thin framed, face full of make-up, money falling out your wallet because it’s so full and name brand clothing. None of those things are beautiful, all those things are cover ups to hide a deeper rooted issue that they are battling on the inside. To God beauty is on the inside of you, God searches your inner so that’s where your focus should be. You are most beautiful when your life pours out Christ from every fiber of your being and you are bringing people to Christ. Listen to God’s voice and follow his direction!

Why is this stigma placed on single women waiting to be someone’s good thing? Single women get this stigma placed on us because some are desperate. Some women can’t stand to be single so they settle for less than they’re worth and will change themselves to get a man. Single women also get this stigma placed on them because they let too many worldly people speak into their lives. You MUST be careful who you let mentor you or speak into your life! Everyone isn’t for you and sometimes they don’t even have the rules together themselves.

Is this statement really true? Absolutely NOT! This is one of the most ignorant misguided statements to ever be created! If you know you are aligning your life with Christ, you are fine. If you know you are living a life dedicated to Christ, he will definitely send you the man you deserve. Though the single season can last a long period of time, don’t EVER settle. Wait on God to bring this man into your life! No matter how long you are single, remember God has someone set aside for you and you will come together when HE sees fit!

How can you respond to someone who throws this at you? You let them know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and no matter who comes your way, that won’t change. Remind them that you know you are someone’s good thing and you aren’t going to be shaken by the statement. Let them know they should pick up their bible and find out what God says about them and tell them don’t speak that death over you. 

One thing you can rest assured in is God has the final say over your life, NOT man. If God says you’ll be single then that’s what it is, you aren’t going to change his mind. I know it’s easy to get discouraged and feel like you might be in this season forever BUT you won’t. You attract who wants to come over and try you but that doesn’t mean you have to entertain them. When someone doesn’t line up with your standards show them the exit. Don’t be afraid to tell people no thank you or you aren’t fitting the mold for a man of God. Sure they may get offended but you have a right to turn them down and not feel bad about it. Let’s pray!

Dear Lord,

I come to you today thanking you for all you’ve done for me, thank you for loving me and protecting me. I ask you forgive me for any sins that I may have committed today and restore me. As your daughter I ask that in your timing you send my mate and let us bring glory to your name. I thank you for showing me the way you feel about me and what I should require in a man who wants to be apart of my life. My heart belongs to you and I have faith that you’ll bring me a man who has asked you for me first. Thank you Lord for showing me my worth! In your name I pray,

Amen

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John 15:13 is such a powerful verse in regards to friendship. In 2014 I’ve been wondering what happened to real friendships, like where are the people who would lay down their lives for their friends? It’s amazing how with age you notice that people you could call friends 15 years ago don’t hold that title anymore. For example, I pride myself on being an amazing friend, you can call me at 3 in the morning stranded and I’m getting out of my bed to come get you. Last year I had a year of redemption and forgiveness but some things have become future behavior from those same people. I won’t say names because it’s unimportant but I will give situations and hopefully solutions

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I recently had a birthday party for my 5 year old, I had several people back out and some had valid reasons. For the couple who didn’t call, didn’t show or had an excuse I’ve chosen not to speak to them. When you are a TRUE friend, you will turn over stones in the middle of the road to get to your friend’s birthday party. There will be no last minute attempt to honor your commitment to your friend, you’ll be there ON TIME, with a gift and helping in any way you can. Friendship has gotten so far from those principals that you get people’s latter, not there best. WORD TO THE WISE: YOU have to set a standard for people to rise up to, just like relationships , if you don’t set requirements in stone people aren’t going to honor you. I know about 10 years ago you didn’t have to have sit downs with people because they took pride in being friends but it’s apparently a new day. 

SOLUTION: Pray God gives you the words to say when your friends aren’t holding up their end. Also have a standard set in stone for what friendship with you looks like. If people can’t meet that requirement, there is absolutely nothing wrong with discontinuing that friendship. If you are the one they can call on but they can’t be called on that’s not your friend, they are using you.

Another example I can use is also related to my 5 year old. She had a situation where someone made her feel less than loved, kind of brushed her off. She wanted to go with the person and it was always an excuse as to why they couldn’t fulfill their obligation to her. She then came to me and said “So and so doesn’t want me, she doesn’t want me” and began to cry. One thing about me is I DO NOT play when it comes to my child! If you look up mama bear in the dictionary I’m sure my picture is next to the definition because I protect her to all faults. You can’t make my child feel any type of way & I not deal with you accordingly and possibly in a less than nice tone. Her schooling has been affected and I also DO NOT play with academics, especially if it’s due to someone stressing her out. She knows I have her back and if ANYONE attempts to come against her the claws and roar will come out.

SOLUTION: Again consult God first on what to say to the person and how to say it. Also swallow your fears about the outcome because no matter what the situation has to be addressed. Children are innocent and depend on their parents to protect them, make sure they are safe and feel loved. If someone takes on a position and doesn’t honor that role, it’s OK to remove them from the job. Ford fires and hires everyday and you have the right to do so too!

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LOOKING FORWARD: I am very proud to say even though I’ve had some bad experiences I do have people who abide by Luke 6:31.I don’t want to put them on blast BUT their names are Theary and Nakisha. When I say friend, I mean FRIEND! If I need anything I can pick up the phone and call them and they’d be right there. If I’m on my death bed and have hours to live, they will hold my hand and talk to me until my eyes close and God takes me into heaven. They have honored me for over 15 years and been a constant blessing in my daughter’s life since she was born. We’ve had our downs but our UP’S have been a straight flight, needless to say we haven’t had to discuss standards because they’ve stood by me since the day we met

When you find yourself in those uncomfortable situations, I’d ask you to go to God for the words to say. A TRUE friend is priceless and God will continue to send you people who will honor you. Pray to him for more God lead friendships and less Godless acquaintances. Some people just want to come around you to make sure you aren’t doing better than them. Some people just want to see in your life and go run and tell your hardships to people. Don’t be afraid to close the blinds to those people, they mean you NO good and will bring stress to your life. You can love them from a distance, pray for them every night but not let them gain access to take from you or make you feel a certain way. Let’s Pray!

Almighty God,

I thank you for giving me a chance to see a new day, I thank you for forgiving me for my sins and loving me in spite of myself. I come to you tonight with a heavy heart. I am lost for words to say to someone I’ve considered a friend and I need your guidance. In your word you’ve shown me what friendship looks like and I’m not being treated according to the word. I ask that if they are for me, you give me the words to say and if they are not for me you remove them from my life. I want friendships that reflect your love and that push me to be better in you and pray you send me those people. I want to further your kingdom, bring glory to your name and be friends with people who wish the same. I want to live in a way that’ll bring people to know you and not a way that sends people astray so I ask you continue to humble me. Thank you for hearing my heart and my prayer father God,

Amen

 

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As a woman whose been in relationships that weren’t the best for me, I realize how you can get swept up in lust covered as love. It’s very easy to get caught up in the feeling vs. the reality of your relationship. You make excuses for why he/she is the one and how they make your heart smile and so on. He looks like everything you dreamed of as a child, she looks like everything you wanted in a woman as a young boy. What happens when it turns out to be just a facade? What happens when you are gut punched with the reality of he/she not being who lust told you they were on your journey seeking love? I’ll tell you what happens, you end in the fetal position on your bed asking God why.

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Growing up, if you are lucky your parents sat you down and told you what to expect from a relationship. You were raised deep in the word of God and the dangers of premarital sex were explained to you. If you are like most people I know, that didn’t happen so you were left fending for yourself to figure out what love was. I’m 25 and the first time lust was explained to me was in a blog and that was AFTER i became a single mom. I don’t mean the cute version of single mom, I mean the child is with you 24 AND the 7, no social life and no resources kind of single motherhood. The word SOUL TIE was introduced to me last year when I started to diligently seek Christ. I’m writing this blog because even though I got it late, I want to share it with you early, here today, right now.

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What you should know is when you are seeking love God has already given it to you. There is nothing you can do to change the way he feels about you. He knows you are going to mess up and that’s why he sent his son to die for you. What you seek in man or woman, he’s already giving you so be fulfilled in that. Nothing about love equals lust, either it is or it isn’t and that’s how you should view people. I used to be one of those girls who fell in love with potential. Oh it wasn’t anything you could tell me about it either, I’d defend the unemployment, I’d defend the other girls and I’d dare you to challenge me. Granted I’d never picked up a bible to see what God said love was. I don’t want you to be the one who doesn’t pick up a bible so you travel the world seeking something that isn’t real.

The day I woke up from forever was when I’d found myself in a toxic relationship. I thought because I waited 6 months to have sex that I was doing something. I tied my soul up and BAD, for those of you who don’t know a soul tie is when you have sex with someone who has not put some papers and a ring on it! If he didn’t approach you, court you, consult God on your relationship/ courtship, wait for confirmation from God, get a yes from God, propose to you, go to the court house file for a marriage license, stand before you and your family and friends and marry you then get intimate, you’ve tied souls. Premarital sex creates a soul tie because you are sharing your body with someone other than your husband/wife.

I know some people don’t believe it takes all that and those are the people I tell “READ YOUR BIBLE!” I got all caught up with a toxic person even became a mother from that toxic relationship and it brought me to right here today. Now I understand had I not went through that, I wouldn’t have a relationship with Christ. Sure, I identified with Christianity but I never knew it actually came along with task until I gave my life fully to him. I now know if a man wants to have sex, kiss all on me and get in my personal space he isn’t for me! I desire a man of God, not just one who sits in a church on Sunday and Wednesday nights right beside a Pastor because it looks good. I won’t settle for a man other than one who is so lost in God that he bleeds the word because I am lost in my word that way.

I desire a man who is God lead now, not flesh lead because that’ll breed fleshly desires and I’ve been there before. I now know what God says about me, what he requires of me and what it means to have a relationship with him. Just because you are in a relationship that doesn’t bring God glory doesn’t mean you have to stay in it. You can get out of that at anytime, you can stop answering those late night phone calls for him/her tonight. Pick up your bible and read what LOVE truly is and how that’s what you should require and give. Don’t let what you want him/her to be cloud your judgement and cause you to miss out on the one God has for you. You are SOOOOOOOOOO worth the best! You are SOOOO worth being loved and cared for and not just for someone’s temporary pleasures! Don’t leave this earth stuck in the mentality that you should be OK with a flesh lead relationship. You are priceless, God fights for you, he gave his son FOR YOU! I don’t know about you but I wouldn’t give up my only son for a bunch of sinners but God did because he thinks that much of YOU! Just love yourself, just thank God for that thought alone, just start off with you desire for better and progression. Let’s Pray!

Dear Heavenly Father,

I thank you for your son, I thank you for this day to do better, I thank you for your love and your mercy. As I sit before you I ask you create in me a clean heart. I ask that you show me how to love myself the way you love me! I need you Lord and you’ve been so merciful and awesome while I’ve been stuck in my mess. I vow to do better and choose to serve you and bring glory and honor to your name. I know I deserve the best and I trust you will bring the best to me as I travel this journey called life. As I fall on my knees begging for your forgiveness for the sins I’ve committed I trust and believe you are working things out for my good. As times get tough I will turn to you and seek your guidance because I know you’ve got me. Thank you Lord for the awakening I’ve been given today and may I be a vessel for you forever.

In your precious name it is I pray,’

Amen

 

 

 

 

 

 

So I want to send a special shout out to Ms Brittney as busy as she is, she made time to fill out my feature questionnaire. She not only gave biblical answers but she also gave some great insight on starting your own ministry guidelines! Sis I thank you soooo much for being willing and open to share this journey. As I told you in our email, you inspire and encourage me daily and I can’t thank you enough for being such a beautiful vessel for Christ! Without further ado, Brittney Moses!!!!!!!

Ministry Feature

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  • Tell me about yourself?

My name is Brittney Moses. Im the mother of (currently 4 year old) Austin Moses. I was born and raised in Los Angeles and recently moved to Dallas, Texas in January 2013. I was raised in the church but fell away in my teenage years after the divorce of my parents which led to a downfall of cutting, stealing, smoking, clubbing, drinking, and entering numerous broken relationships among other things. I met my husband in high school where we got pregnant at eighteen causing us to settle down quite a bit. Shortly after having my son we got saved, baptized and married. We dedicated ourselves to the mission of the church- giving, serving and growing. I spent about three years in the valley and in the shadows growing my personal relationship with Christ, Studying the Word in depth, empowering and increasing my prayer life. Our lost generation became an extremely heavy burden on my heart after living that lifestyle and seeing so many broken and confused around me. Years later God planted the Unashamed Impact mission in my heart to gather, equip and send out a generation in their God given purpose. Since then we’ve become a worldwide organization of young people reaching out to the community and living our lives according to the Word of God. Outside of Unashamed Impact I love the arts- music, dancing, dramas, musicals, writing and anything creative. I studied musical theater and film in school and did competitive figure skating when I was younger. Most people dont know that side of me.

  • What brought you to starting your ministry?

When I really began to take my faith seriously and walk out this Christian lifestyle I shortly found myself feeling lonely. Not only was I now a teenage mother but I was a Christian and took on a life that was very much in contrast with the world around me and all my friends. I soon lost everything that sin gave me. It was bittersweet to be torn away from my old life. As I lost the world around me I also was pushing closer to Christ. It was an interesting dynamic. Then I began to feel hurt for those who were trapped in the empty lifestyle I was now free from. My brother was in a gang and many of my friends were still broken. I realized young people just didnt have many examples of what it looks like to live a healthy lifestyle in Christ. Many didnt know how.

I’d been tweeting a while based on my experience and learnings of Christ which began to gather a following. I began a blog and started writing encouraging letters to young believers to press on in their faith and that they’re not alone and to not compromise for the pressures of this lost world. I began recieving a lot of feedback and readers from other countires. They told me how alone they felt in their faith- that they felt like they were the only ones their age that really followed Christ. But what if we gathered every young believer across the world to represent a generation after Christ? What if we lead the rest of out generation out of their brokenness and to Christ by example? Who better to identify with then your own peers? Thats when Unashamed Impact birthed in my heart. God began to flood me with ideas, plans, sturcture. It started with a youtube video of the vision and from there became a worldwide organization that later evolved into the four main points of Fellowship, Being an Example, Evangelism, and Community Outreach. I give God the glory that we can be a part of His Kingdom plan.

  •  What does your ministry teach women?

The ministry isn’t geared toward a specific gender but the overall focus is to teach them how to live out their God given purpose, how to have a growing relationship with Christ, how to uphold your value in Christ and not compromise for who the world tries to make you out to be.

  • Do you promote celibacy?

Yes. We encourage living our lives governed by the Word of God which includes saving yourself for marriage. I like to say sex is Gods wedding gift to you. =)

This is very important to me being a married woman who didnt save herself for marriage. It distorted my view of sex into something dark, lusty and preverted when it is suppose to be a beautiful way to become one with your spouse and communicate a pure love. Going into a marriage with this perverted image of sex as a born again Christian can damage and rip you off of sacred intimacy with your spouse. I believe God knows whats best for us and ordains it this way for many reasons.

  •  What’s one piece of advice you give to a wife in waiting who’s growing impatient?

A couple things:

1. Use this time to focus on and learn more about you. I will speak from personal experience and getting married young. Once you become married or a mother your family becomes your life. If you arent secure in who you are, if you are still dealing with brokenness, etc it will carry into your family. No ones perfect so there will always be things you can fix about yourself but if you focus on becoming whole in Christ it will only create an opportunity for an even healthier marriage. Use this waiting time to do the things you like! Take a dance class, travel a bit, meet new people and make friends. Take advantage of these things now! Also think of yourself as married to Christ until your married to your husband (even though it carries on past that). Dont forget your first love- Christ. Spend time with him, cry at his feet, read his love letter to you (The Bible). No man will make you whole. Dont give men Jesus expectations because they are imperfect and your husband may dissapoint you on many ocassions.

2. Stop rushing. Whoever you marry is going to be your LIFETIME partner. You will have the REST of your life to spend with them verses maybe the few years you’re single. Not only that but the Bible says not to “awaken love before its due”. You probably know as well as I do that entering relationships prematurely and outside of Gods timing only leads to future confusion, hurt and possible brokenness. If it isnt Gods plan for you then why work against it? You’ll only wind up hurting yourself and asking “why? why did this happen? why does this always happen to me? I cant keep a solid man.” No, this is a result of entering premature relationships for the sake of being desperate. You can be alone without being lonely. Enjoy you, love you, sing to you, dance with yourself. Like I said previously, do the things you love that drive your God given passions and contribute to those around you. Men love a woman who knows and enjoys herself. You can smell co dependancy from a mile away. Dont become a mans project, become his queen- someone who can stand strong beside him, comfortable in who she is without or without him.

  •  How has starting your own ministry changed your life?

I dont even know where to start. But honestly, its increased my faith, shown me what it really means to be a slave to Christ and the importance of our family in Christ.

Unashamed Impact is a very organic organization right now. Everything thus far has been out of pocket besides donations here and there. But when we decide were going to do a mission whether feeding the homeless, an orphanage, or providing gifts for Christmas we dedicate ourselves to it and God ALWAYS shows through. Many of us take a hit in our finances to see others impact by this mission and I believe God honors that everytime. The way we’ve grown, the way we’ve been able to provide and that lives that have changed because of this have increased my faith and trust in him tremendously. Sometimes we dont know how things are going to happen but they do.

Starting this ministry has caused me to sacrifice a lot. Time, finances, emotions, etc and pour pour pour into people. Sometimes he calls us to do things we dont feel like doing. But theres a conviction in you that leaves with no choise BUT to help, but to obey, but to give. When you truly stand for the mission he’s given you you find that others who dont know him will hate you for it. Its really shown me the meaning of slave and sacrifice. Its worth it every day.

  •  What advice would you give to a woman who’s interested in starting a ministry but doesn’t know how to start?

I would definitely pray on it and ask for confirmation. You don’t want to start up something just for the sake of doing it or just off a good idea. When God gives you a calling you’re fueled by it and fulfilled in it. You’re willing to do whatever it take for it within Gods will of course. You’re ready to dedicate yourself to it and it feels natural when youre doing it. The last thing we want to do is try to make something work thats outside of Gods eill.

For starters I would write out the vision and make it clear: The Mission, The Purpose, and How the Purpose of the mission is going to be fulfilled. Through what actions? I would use all social media outlets: twitter, facebook page, website with blog, instagram and the specific places God my lead you.

If you plan on really taking this into a full fledged ministry/organization you’ll want to go online and make sure the name isnt already taken and get your DBA (Doing Business As) it basically gives you a claim on the name. From their you try to raise funds to get it incorporated (we did ours through the secretary of state). Legalzoom is a pretty common way. Lawyers charge crazy amounts but if you know someone in that field who can help, dont hesitate to ask!

Definitely plan on having a team. The worst and most burdensome thing you can do is trying to do everything on your own. At the beginning of course itll be mostly you, but the more you share the vision and bring people on or others show interest you’ll want to distribute the tasks and give everyone clear responsibilities. This way you wont burn out and can also focus on the vision and pushing that forward. You have positions like an administrative asst, social media person to run your social sites, maybe an event planner, whichever way the cards fall.

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So it’s the holiday season and you’re starting to see all your married friends family pictures, your friends with their boyfriends and people arranging trips to go home for the holidays. You’re sitting home single and just can’t believe it’s been 5 months, 1 year, 2 years and so forth of you being single. I know you can grow restless in your waiting on God for a mate so I’m here to reassure you that singleness is NOT a disease and get you through your lonely nights.

1. Realize that you are single for a reason: Whether you are recently out of a relationship because of “growing apart”, infidelity, or you realized he/ she wasn’t the one, this is a time to regroup. Coming out of a relationship is very hard, especially if you’ve created a soul tie (will be discussed in a future blog) to someone. You need to realize you left that situation for a reason so don’t fret about being single.

2. DO NOT STALK YOUR EXES SOCIAL MEDIA: If I had $1 for every time someone ran my exes information back to me, I’d be rich! Do not go looking at an old flames Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or e.t.c trying to see what or who they have going on. Realize it’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS what they are up to!!! It’s only going to cause you to become sad, depressed and make hell for you to survive the Christmas holiday. Think about it, you’re going to be playing your sad cd with a bottle of Patron looking really ridiculous!

3. Make sure you go spend time with your family: I don’t know about you but cooking on Christmas and enjoying some nice gospel music with my family brings me such joy. You get to be surrounded by family you may have not seen in awhile, eat great food and act silly and not be judged for it!

4. You get to enjoy a quiet house: Oh how I miss those years before becoming a mother! Don’t get me wrong, my daughter is an amazing gift, couldn’t imagine life without her but I MISS SLEEP! When you’re single you control you’re schedule, after work you can just enjoy a nice bubble bath, a glass of wine or even stay up late on Friday nights.

5. You have uninterrupted time with God: When you have a boyfriend or become married you may lose focus on studying your word, going to bible study and your prayer life may even suffer. Sometimes you pray and believe God for your mate and once you get them, it becomes GOOD LOOKING OUT JESUS,BYE! Don’t look at the screen like that, IT DOES HAPPEN! Being single you have time to get lost in your bible, serve in a ministry and fulfill your dreams. The season of singleness is the PERFECT time to figure yourself out, not sit around twiddling your thumbs.

6. Realize this is just a season: You won’t always be single so enjoy the motions of this season. I know when you’ve been single for a substantial amount of time you start thinking you’re going to die single. It’s NOT true, God just hasn’t said it’s your time so if you are submitting to him and following his word, he’ll send him/her. You have standards that you aren’t willing to compromise right? So just have FAITH and PATIENCE in what God is doing!  Let’s Pray!

Dear Lord,

I thank you for waking me this morning, I thank you for keeping me safe, I thank you for being an awesome provider and for loving me in spite of all my flaws. I ask for your forgiveness for any sins I’ve committed today and ask you to create in me a clean heart. I ask that you bring me peace in my season of singleness. I ask that you wrap your arms around me in my times of loneliness and guide me on your path. I understand this is just a temporary situation and trust you to bring a man/ woman into my life in your timing. Forgive me for being impatient and wanting to go before your plans. Your ways breed the best results so I’ll stand still and trust in you to bring my heart’s desires to pass. I love you Lord and you are so amazing, you’re awesome and so worthy to be praised. In Jesus name I pray,

Amen

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Celibacy Feature

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Tell me about yourself 

 I am a novelist, public servant and speaker. Oftentimes, I am summoned to speak with youth and young adults, as it pertains to healing, celibacy and education. My recent publication, What Are You Bringing to the Table, has garnered the attention of individuals nationwide as I endeavored to encourage women to take OFF their safari jackets. The focus needs to be on Becoming “The One,” as opposed to Finding“The One.” After all, relationships start in the Mirror, not in the Sheets…

 

What brought you to the celibacy lifestyle? 

Through the grace of God, I have been able to maintain my virginity for 32 years.

 

How has being celibate changed your life?

It has enabled me to think more clearly due to the fact that once you get involved with someone sexually it can certainly cloud your judgment. I am more inclined to discern the hearts of those with false intentions and motivate women to join me in the process to work on as many of our unresolved issues as possible.

 

Do you believe celibacy is something that all women should practice?

Absolutely! Every single woman should practice celibacy. There are entirely too many diseases to engage in casual sex. Your body should be a gift to your husband, not a convenience for your friend.  Engaging in premarital sex during monogamous relationships is still considered fornication. If at all possible, children deserve the opportunity to grow up in solid, two parent household structures (ordained by God of course.

 

What advice would you give to women struggling with deciding to become celibate?

Get to the root of the issue! Are you engaging in pre-marital sex because you fear losing the guy to someone else? Is your body all you have to offer? Are you continuing to have sex because you have already lost your virginity so you think your body is no longer valuable? Waiting until marriage to have sex does NOT guarantee happily ever after, but neither does premarital sex. We live in a sex-crazed society; therefore, you have to be mindful of the company you keep. Don’t half-step the process. For example, if you’re giving up cake, you don’t eat the icing. In simpler terms, no adult toys, oral sex or games to see how close you can get before you cross the line. You wouldn’t get half as many heartbreaks if you worked on your issues and make your body off limits until marriage.

 

What do you say to the women in a relationship who’s been sexually active with her boyfriend and believes she can’t stop having sex with him now because she’s already started?

If –and I mean if- God has ordained for you and your boyfriend to be together, what’s hindering you both from getting married? If you both have committed to cell phone contracts, mortgages, rent, leases, etc, then what’s prohibiting the ultimate commitment? Just because you’ve already started something, does Not mean you can’t stop. If you’re like me, you can attest to the fact that you’ve already started eating more than you should over the years and that is no excuse to continue an unhealthy lifestyle.

 

What words of wisdom do you want to share with our sisters in Christ regarding Celibacy?

Once you really see yourself as a prize, you won’t let just anyone unwrap you. Don’t allow another person to see you in your honeymoon aura, if you have never made it to the honeymoon.

 

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When we decide to give our lives to Christ we believe life is going to change for the better. We know it’s going to be constant work but as far as our trials and tribulations we think those are going to halt, RIGHT?! Nothing could be further from the truth, and that’s the hardest thing to stomach. But that’s not the worst part though, our friends and family who are living a life full of sin are getting blessed left and right and we’re sitting at home trying to make sense of it. We’re sitting home scrolling our social media accounts and can’t help but see someone has gotten a new job, a new car, a new house and we’ve been praying for those very things. We get upset and start to cry out to God asking why they are getting “OUR” blessing. We say things like “Lord so and so doesn’t even believe in you, so and so doesn’t even pay tithes, so and so is shacking up, so and so is selling drugs” and so many other things right? Well I’m here to knock all of those very thoughts out of your mind and give you peace in your season.

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In Matthew 6:19-21 we get to see that God is telling us no matter what you see happening around you that you being faithful will pay off. On earth so and so is definitely seeming to do better than you, seems to be getting those things you asked for but once God comes back they have no home. God will supply every need but he does it in his timing, he’s not worried about your need to keep up with the Jones-es. HE’S JUST NOT THAT TYPE OF GOD, he’s more focused on letting you put things into perspective! You have to ask yourself if you want to have things that you can’t take with you and be in hell or do you want to wait on his timing and go be with him in heaven for eternity. Riches on earth is all those people have but God has given you the greatest gift, ETERNAL LIFE. 

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God let’s us know that rich men will have a hard time getting into heaven and it’s because they won’t even share. I remember reading in the bible Jesus asked a rich man to give his riches away and follow him and have real riches. The man wouldn’t do it! Can you believe that??? He would rather have his earthly goods than to dedicate his life to following and serving CHRIST! With sinners it’s the same way, they’d rather look good to the earthly people than suffer a little following Christ. Aren’t you glad Jesus has you, so you will be set up in heaven with him? I don’t know about you but I’m glad when hell opens up, I’M NOT GOING THERE! If ALL I have to do is follow him, pay my tithes, study his word, pronounce my stance to the world and live in a way that’ll bring people over to know him and be set up for eternity, those sinners can have that life.

Trust me I’m going through a season where I have had to cry, pray, get upset, get happy, trust him and surrender to his will. I know exactly how it feels to be surrounded by sinners who appeared to be winning but still have to believe God for my turn around. I’m currently going through the unemployment season and health of my daughter being at stake so I’m speaking from experience that God CAN AND WILL turn it around. All you have to do is tell him, I know you’re going before me Lord so I trust you! I know those people in my life are seeming to do better than I am but it’s all apart of satan’s plan to get me off my walk with you. I’m not leaving you Lord, I’m not taking my eyes off of you, the devil can be yelling in my face but I’m going to stay focused on you. I know it’s hard, TRUST and BELIEVE I’m fighting my way through right here today. Let’s Pray!

Dear Most Gracious Father,

I thank you for loving me, saving me, waking me up this morning and keeping me in the midst of my storms. I thank you for reminding me in your word that I’m covered. I know at times the lives of sinners can look more appealing than the life I live but it’s just a trick of the devil to take me from you. As I sit here today declaring my trust, faith and belief in you father, you are mine and I am yours. No matter how hard it gets I’ll be grateful for where you have me. I’ll trust in your timing and believe you for my turn around. I know it won’t always be like this, you have promised me in your word that it’ll be greater later. I love you God and thank you for all you’ve done for me and the road you’ve prepared for me ahead. In your powerful name I pray,

Amen